There are consistent things I pray about. One of those things I pray about is that generational cursers be broken off my family. Specifically, I pray that my daughter will not become an unwed mother. My mother was 14 when she had me and I was 17 when I got pregnant and gave birth to my daughter. I know things happen for a reason to each of us, but when I say those numbers out loud, or even think about them, I feel a twinge of something. Not shame, maybe it's still awe.
My family is one of women. It seems that most of us have girl children. This has been the case for the past 3 generations. Almost all, except for 2 that I can think of, of the women in my mother's generation were unwed mothers. All, except for 1, of the women in my generation were unwed mothers, the remainder - my sister and one cousin are neither married nor mothers. The same is true for my male cousins.
This pattern screams generational curse to me. It's one that I have monitored since I became a parent of a girl child. God knows I don't want her to repeat this unGodly pattern. She loves the Lord and has a great head on her shoulders. We talk candidly about sex, emotions, consequences, physical feelings, drugs, the whole gammet. I appreciate her candor with me, and I hope she appreciates mine. She knows my expectations of her and she knows some of what God expects...she is growing into understanding it all. She has made a verbal commitment to purity. She's only a few weeks away from 15 years old, so I know verbal commitments can be shaken at this age. But, I am faithful that my God is answering my prayers to break this terrible curse from my family.
I don't know who in my ancestry did what, but I know that I don't want my child to suffer the consequences. So often I have done things in the past, and continue to do things that I know aren't right. Every time I think about how I'm impacting my great great great granchildren and their children. I also pray that they don't pay for my sins, but I know sometimes that happens. I try to let that thought guide my behavior when I stray from what I know is right.
Every Sunday when we get in the car fro the end of church services, I ask my daughter what they discussed in church and what she got from it. Today, they talked about generational curses. She went on and on about examples they gave at church. Then she told me what came to mind about our family while she was listening to biblical examples. Sure enough, she thought about the enormous amount of unwed mothers. But, she went a step further and took it to the curse of premarital sex. She went further and talked about the lack of marriages, with or without children.
She sees things, she brings it all together in her mind, and she determines if she likes the path or wants a better one. She asks my opinion, and she talks about her feelings. I love all of that about her.
There are so many types of generational curses out there plaguing so many families. I trust and believe that prayer can break them down, and that doing the right things can avoid future ones.
I'm thankful that the teenagers talked about this in Church today.