On my drive into work this morning I decided to call my Granny. I usually call her on my way home, but she fell on my mind this morning. She answered the phone more chipper than usual. It instantly made me smile to hear the joy in her voice. All too often she sounds disgruntled when she answers. See, she hates the phone unless it's one of her Grankids calling. Once she hears me say, "Hey, Old Lady!" she instantly perks up. But, today she shocked me.
I told her how great she sounded and she told me that she felt great. My Granny is a talker, when talking to peopl she likes. She went on a 10 minutes story of the salmon patties she made last night for dinner and the smoothie she made this morning with her bullet. She was so impressed with her greenbean, spinach concoction that she couldn't contain herself.
I told her that I got the new job offer and had accepted. She said she knew I would, but then her tone changed. She told me that I need to stop switching jobs and that I need to relax my body and stay still for a while. I just listened. She told me that I had a good job and that I need to stop leaving these good jobs. As with each new position I get, I tried again to explain to her my career, career goals, and the differences between her generation's outlook on Jobs versus my generation's outlook on Careers. And, just like she says each time I say that to her, she told me that "Thangs ain't changed that much. You better be still." I had to remind her that I'm not relocating this time. She has come to equate my acceptance of new positions as a move to another part of the country, and rightfully so.
I usually respectfully dismiss her thoughts on job loyalty and living in the same house for 30 years, but today it lingered in mind beyond the phone call. I'm not sure why. I've been trying to explore why her words are still lingering. I know it's not because I think I should stay with the same employer for 20 years, or that I have to live in my current home for 30 years.
Maybe I'm thinking about it because I am ready to stay in one place (living, not working), but I know that more moves are in our future....at least I think so. I know we both want to leave Texas (so we say, but there are days we both slip up and discuss 15 years from now and Texas is in the picture), but we cannot for the next 3.5 years.
Maybe I just want to feel like I should stay in one place because that's what "normal" people do. Maybe I feel bad that I don't agree with my Granny's take on things.
I don't know. I'm going to keep exploring her words and my emotional response to them.